Archive | May, 2010

Spring Flower Planting

28 May

Last Friday several clients volunteered to help with some Spring freshening-up.  Thanks Kevin and Steve for helping pick-up the flowers and lead the planting brigade.

Clients hung flowers around the gazebo and put blooms in the planter boxes.  They also planted an assortment of colored flowers in the beds in front of the building.

The maintenance crew took care of the mulch this year.

The weather really cooperated and gave us a perfect day to be outside planting.

Flowers include a selection of pansies, marigolds, and other flowers that like sun.

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Book Review: The Angry Book

28 May

By Liz Tutino

The Angry Book is a psychoanalytical view of the emotion anger.  The author describes anger as a basic human emotion similar to hunger or thirst.  When anger is not appropriately expressed and is distorted it can cause many serious consequences such as poor mental health, poor physical health, and damage to relationships.

How we repond to anger is learned at a very early age because children learn how to deal with anger by receiving and recording what goes on around them, by repetition, and by imitation.  If anger is not expressed in healthy ways individuals learn to block the anger.  the author discusses three blocks to feeling and showing anger.  The first block to expressing anger is the “don’t make waves” syndrome.  This mistaken belief states that if I don’t show anger then you won’t show anger either.  “Since being universally loved is seen as the only way to be safe in the world, anger — especially anger that causes retaliation by the other fellow — is of course seen as a terrible threat” (Rubin, 13).  the result of this belief is that an individual always plays the “nice guy” at a terrible cost to himself.  The second block to anger is the emotional isolationist.  This person believes that they cannot show anger because if they did that would show they actually care and if they care they might get hurt.  A third block is the need for control.  People who have this belief feel that angry feelings or a show of angry feelings are evidence of loss of control.

If an individual has any of the mistaken beliefs that they cannot show anger they they have to distort or repress the natural flow of the emotion.  This results in creating a kind of reservoir of repressed emotions that lead to emotional problems.  The author calls this “perverting” the anger.  By using defense mechanisms anger can be twisted or perverted in the following ways:

  • Put down — an automatic response that is conditioned so you won’t feel anger
  • Putting it off — if you delay the anger long enough it will go away
  • Putting it on — removing the anger from the actual event or person and putting it on something safer
  • Diluting it — intellectual rationalization that the anger is not that important
  • Freezing it — removing and deadening the feeling of anger and all other emotions as well

Perverting anger makes it destructive to our mental health and creates a slush fund of distorted emotion that is looking for a way out.

The third section of the book talks in great detail about all the different ways we twist anger and distort how it is expressed.  Some examples of this include: anxiety, depression, guilt, overeating, sleep and no sleep, compulsions and phobias, denial, self-sabotage, obsessive rumination, and physical health concerns.

The fourth section of the book concentrates on why it is important to know and accept angry feelings.  Acknowledging the angry feelings will help change the twisted ways anger is expressed and leads to better health and relationships.

The fifth section of the book lists 103 questions that can be used in therapy to help a client discover what they are angry about and to open up so they can healthily extend both loving and angry feelings.

Artist of the Month: John

28 May

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Thank you John!  Good job.

Repaired Picnic Tables

28 May

Thank you Roy, Michael, and maintenance team for the new picnic table and for quickly fixing our old one!  It’s nice weather and a good time to have a place outside to sit.